Grief, Children, and Food Insecurity: How Families Navigate Loss and Survival

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Children process grief differently depending on age, personality, and support systems, with unacknowledged grief leading to long-term risks.
Nearly half of U.S. children with mental or behavioral disorders lack proper care due to costs, waitlists, and access barriers.
Food insecurity impacts millions, with SNAP and food banks providing vital support—but systemic reforms are needed for long-term survival.

Grief, Children, and Food Insecurity: How Families Navigate Loss and Survival

This week, on Viewpoints. My nine-year-old, you know, she’s like very expressive child, and she
was very expressive in her grief. Sobbing on the floor, like very physically exhaustive.
Whether you’re nine or ninety, grief is a complicated emotion that we all feel at some point.
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grades or sudden bursts of anger or hyperactivity.
Using national data from 2023, in the U.S., about 1 in 12 children will experience the death of a
parent or sibling before they turn 18. In this situation, one of the big challenges that caregivers
run into is finding the right kind of help that doesn’t make the situation worse. I think there’s
this appropriately self-focused attitude with children that is appropriate developmentally, but
when it comes to grief, then it’s their fault.
And they’ll find a way how that death was their fault, and they can really internalize that if it’s
not processed. That’s Natasha Daniels, a child therapist who specializes in treating grief,
anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. A CDC study published last year found that nearly
half of children in America with a diagnosed mental or behavioral disorder didn’t get the care
they needed.
Most often, this is because of long wait lists to be seen, high medical costs, or not having access
to the right kind of provider nearby. As a therapist, Daniels is familiar with these barriers to care
and also draws from her own personal experience navigating grief and seeking help for her
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my kids were 9, 11, and 18.
So to have that sudden death, death is hard no matter what, but I think the suddenness of not
having the ability to process a loss or see it coming was even harder to handle. My nine-year
old, she’s not nine now, she’s 12, but she’s very expressive. She is a very expressive child, and
she was very expressive in her grief, sobbing on the floor, very physically exhaustive for my
grief, that she was very outward.
My son, very much aligned with his personality, was everything was fine. There’s not a problem.
He wasn’t an issue.
He was hyperactive, which he normally isn’t, and so I was kind of like, what is going on with
him? I think he didn’t know what to do with all this energy, all this sadness in the house. On the
other hand, her eldest daughter, who was about to turn 18, reacted much differently. Instead
of slowing down, she threw herself into overdrive mode and stayed busy cooking meals,
cleaning, and trying to hold herself together.
I had to really put her back in line and say, you’re still a teenager. Go out with your friends.
You’re going to college.
This is not your burden. Let’s process this. You had a loss too.
Let’s talk about this. Daniels could see the weight that her daughter was carrying. Her training
as a therapist gave her tools to step in, but most parents or guardians don’t have that kind of
background.
For families who feel lost, she recommends starting with the basics. Reach out to local grief
support groups. Look into therapists who work with children or teens.
And keep your child’s school in the loop. I do feel like giving your kids an opportunity to say,
like, these are all the tools and resources we have for you, and then honoring what resonates
with them. I was very fortunate to find Billy’s Place, which is grief support group in Phoenix,
Arizona, that deals with immediate loss, like a parent or a sibling.
I said to my kids, just try it three times. Actually, Billy’s Place was like that too. We asked that
you try it three times.
I appreciate that, because I would do that in my therapy too. I’d say, hey, I know you don’t want
to come to therapy, but give me three sessions, and if you still feel that way, I’ll 100% honor
that. And so two out of my three kids decided that the support groups weren’t for them.
And my youngest, she was there for like over a year. And grief rarely follows a linear path. For
some, the effects bubble up right away.
For others, they might not appear until months or even years later. Age, personality, and
developmental stage all factor into how this reactive emotion shows up. With kids, they hit a
different developmental stage, or they have, like, now their brain is firing at a different level,
and they have a new awareness, or they have a memory that at this stage of life, they can
reflect differently on it, or something triggers them.
And they process that grief all over again. And so sometimes when they’re little, they don’t
process grief until they’re, you know, five years later, when they can really, like, experience that
loss. For Daniels, her grief wasn’t just emotional, but it showed up in her body through chest
tightness, sleepless nights, bone-deep exhaustion, and a constant brain fog.
Even years later, this ache hasn’t disappeared. Experts warn that when grief is left
unacknowledged, the costs can be steep. The American Psychiatric Association reports that
about one in ten bereaved people develop prolonged grief disorder, a condition linked to
higher risk of suicide, substance abuse, and physical illness.
For children, those dangers are compounded. Unresolved grief can derail academic
performance, development, and change how they view themselves and their future. It’s also
worth remembering that grief isn’t always about death.
Kids and teens can also mourn changes to their own life. A lot of times we want to swoop in and
fix it. You know, we want to make it better.
And really the biggest gift we can give our kids is validation that it hurts, and that there is a time
for grieving. You know, grieving a friendship, grieving a new teacher and an old teacher
leaving, or grieving the change that sometimes I think it’s just our intuition to go in there and
cheerlead and be like, but look at this other thing that’s happening. It’s going to be so great.
And it is helpful to sit in the discomfort with your child and say, I’m sorry, I know this is hard. I
know it is sad. And how can we honor this? Can we write a letter to the teacher? Can we write a
letter to your friend that left? Is there an action that we can do that can be somewhat healing?
To learn more about this topic, links to additional resources, and our guest, Natasha Daniels,
head to viewpointsradio.org. This story was written by our executive producer, Amira Zaveri.
Our studio manager is Jason Dickey. I’m Gary Price. Coming up, food insecurity isn’t just about
hunger.
It’s about the systems and resources that keep millions afloat when Viewpoints returns. I’m still
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Last week, we heard from two sources about what it feels like to live with food insecurity and its
effect on daily life. This week, we shift our focus to two organizations that are helping people
put food on their table. As prices for everything remain high, the need has grown.
A family of four, with two parents and two children, that have an income of about $32,000 a
year, fall below the poverty level. According to the latest U.S. Census, about 13% of households,
or 17 million families nationwide, meet this criteria and get government assistance. This can
mean food credits, discounted health insurance, housing subsidies, and other resources.
But there’s another, much larger group who earn just above the poverty level and are also
chronically struggling to get by. United for Alice, a national research initiative, defines this
population as the working poor. They’re employed and often holding down multiple jobs, but
what they make doesn’t stretch far enough to cover rent, health care, food, and other basic
living costs.
By Alice’s measure, 42% of U.S. households today fall into this class. Alice is someone that we all
know, but perhaps not by name. And Alice is an acronym.
Asset limited, income constrained, employed. So if we start just thinking about the workers that
we know, that we rely on on a daily basis. Child care workers, home health aides, delivery
drivers, bank tellers, security guards.
Folks that we need to keep our economy running smoothly, yet struggle to support their own
families. That’s Stephanie Hoops, the National Director of United for Alice. Hoops gets into how
the current system goes against working people who earn just above the federal poverty level.
They’re still struggling, but they’re not eligible for things like SNAP and TANF and some of the
most common government programs. So as a result, they are limited to basically non-profit
programs that don’t have income requirements. And probably the most common of those are
food banks and food pantries.
To provide some context, she breaks down how the government calculated the federal poverty
level and who gets these benefits when the system was created back in the 1960s. At the time,
there was a consensus that food should be a third of your budget. So they calculated what it
costs to feed a family of four and multiplied it by three.
And literally, that number has been ticked up by the Consumer Price Index ever since. And it’s
the same number across the country, so it doesn’t reflect the variation, the difference in cost of
living from Manhattan to Mississippi, from Indiana to Texas. And so that’s out of kilter.
But also, it hasn’t adjusted to what you really need to live and work in the modern economy.
This often includes a working phone, car, and other items. These are all extra costs that weren’t
factored into the original calculation that was set 60 years ago.
Often, these items take priority in order for people to keep working and living. So other
essentials, like buying healthy, nutritious foods, get cut. On the ground, food pantries are
seeing this shift in recent years, as already tight budgets become even tighter.
We all know that the price of housing and groceries and just the general cost of living is
elevated right now. And so having enough to put food on the table for your family is a
challenge for a lot of households. So if asked to pinpoint a specific demographic that we serve,
it’s really impossible because so often it’s anyone.
A lot of people are surprised that sometimes it’s their neighbors. It’s somebody they don’t
necessarily anticipate being food insecure. But it is currently impacting one in five households
in the Chicago metro area that experience food insecurity.
And so when we talk about households with children, that number goes down to one in four.
That’s Cameron Mattson, the communications manager at the Greater Chicago Food
Depository. The organization supplies food for food banks, soup kitchens, shelters, and other
programs across the Chicagoland area.
They also have a team that helps people in need apply for resources they qualify for, like the
Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program, known as SNAP. And this need has grown. Last
year, the Greater Chicago Food Depository and its partners served 2.4 million households.
That’s 64 percent more visitors than in 2021. Of the 2.4 million households that we, visits we
had in 2024, about 13 percent each month were households coming for the first time. And so,
yeah, there’s, again, I think it’s just the challenges of finances that are bringing people in that
haven’t necessarily needed to use these resources in the past.
And behind the scenes, keeping shelves stocked to meet this demand is another challenge. In
2024, Mattson says the depository purchased almost 40 percent of the food it provided to its
network. This was possible through supporter donations.
The second largest funding source was from the government. Another 28 percent of our food
came from the federal government through, via the U.S. Department of Agriculture. And then
the remaining 33 percent was donated by food distributors and manufacturers or rescued from
food retailers.
And so it’s really this kind of three-pronged source of food that we have that provides what we
need to get to our neighbors and feed this vast network. While the Greater Chicago Food
Depository serves millions each year, it’s one part of a larger resource network. Mattson says
food banks can’t replace the support the government provides through food assistance
programs like SNAP.
If this federal funding is cut, much of the burden will fall back on individual states. Historically,
SNAP benefits were 100 percent federally funded. And Illinois, for example, could be required
to pay up to $800 million annually to keep SNAP available for our neighbors.
And so obviously most states are not equipped to bridge this gap. And as much as food banks
like ours want to help, we just don’t have the scale for this. Because for every meal a food bank
like the Food Depository provides, SNAP provides the equivalent of nine meals.
So the need that will be created with some of these reductions is more than we’re equipped to
handle. While federal programs like SNAP are the backbone of food assistance, Hoops
highlights how some states, schools, and other local nonprofits are stepping up with creative
solutions to help families in need. We’re seeing some great action across the country.
All different kinds of stakeholders stepping up, good action at state and local governments.
May 1st in Hawaii, the state legislature approved expanding free school meal access to cover
more children, and specifically to help Alice families. These kinds of programs can ease the
strain for families in the short term.
But Hoops feels that the bigger long-term picture is still troubling. The fragility of today’s labor
market leaves millions of households on shaky ground. Of all adults in the U.S., only 22% have
the security of a full-time salary job.
And that means the rest are working hourly paid, or part-time, or looking for work, or are out of
the workforce. And I think that helps sum up the precarious nature of our economy right now.
The reality is sobering, but there are resources out there and ways to get involved.
So where can households turn for help if they need it? Hoops says this is the best first step.
That’s to dial 211 on your phone and connect to the reference and referral service that links you
to resources that are in your community. So 211 is across the country, but when you call in from
a location, it goes to the resources that are in that location.
And it’s run by United Ways and state governments across the country. And it’s also available
online, so you could go to 211.org. And that’s probably the fastest way to be connected to
things that meet your needs and fit your situation. Beyond seeking help, there are also ways for
listeners to support the fight against food insecurity.
Food banks and nonprofits depend on volunteers, donations, and advocacy to keep shelves
stocked and programs running. Even small contributions of time or resources can make a
difference in your community. Looking ahead, food insecurity isn’t just about empty pantries
and fridges.
It’s about the constant trade-offs that individuals and families must make to survive. Local food
banks and nonprofits are doing their part, but long-term progress depends on sustained
investment and smart policy at every level of our government. To learn more about United for
Alice and the Greater Chicago Food Depository, as well as our guests this week, Stephanie
Hoops and Cameron Mattson, visit ViewpointsRadio.org. This segment was written by our
executive producer, Amira Zaveri.
Our studio manager is Jason Dickey. I’m Marty Peterson. Viewpoints returns in just a moment.
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Grief, Children, and Food Insecurity: How Families Navigate Loss and Survival

Grief, Children, and Food Insecurity: How Families Navigate Loss and Survival